LESSON 7: The Origin of the 1 Rule
Out of the 108 tools, skills and strategies I’ve discovered, created and used over the last
40+ years, the 1 Rule is the simplest, most powerful strategy that I’ve come across.
The first version of the 1 Rule began when I suddenly became aware that I was being the
kind of parent I DID NOT want to be! I was yelling at my young cowering children to try to
get them to do something. What? I don’t know.
I was horrified at my behavior. I apologized to my children and promised I would never
again try force them to do anything they did not want to do. And I never did. Changes
can be made instantly.
Then I asked if there was anything I could do to help them feel better. My youngest
daughter said she wanted to go out in the car. My oldest daughter said she wanted to
visit some friends we had not seen for a long time. We all agreed. We had an awesome
time and never looked back.
The Current Origin of the 1 Rule
This process started at the beginning of the year that I created Harmonizing With Kids. I
wanted people to get maximum results with minimal effort. I knew that 7 Steps to Harmony
worked, but I kept remembering that 3yr old kids did it with fewer steps. Out of this
process I came up with Harmonizing With Kids (the Bonus at the start of this training).
I Asked Myself
Even after I finished Harmonizing With Kids, I wondered if I’d gotten to the essence of
what I could share to help create harmonious situations for kids. One evening, I asked
myself a question: “What is the least that I need to share with people about what I’ve
learned about raising happy kids so other people can most quickly and easily raise their
own happy kids?” Or something simple like that. The result is the 1 Rule. “108 Parenting
Lessons in 1 Simple Rule”…
Next lesson I share how it was revealed to me.
Out of the 108 tools, skills and strategies I’ve discovered, created and used over the last
40+ years, the 1 Rule is the simplest, most powerful strategy that I’ve come across.
The first version of the 1 Rule began when I suddenly became aware that I was being the
kind of parent I DID NOT want to be! I was yelling at my young cowering children to try to
get them to do something. What? I don’t know.
I was horrified at my behavior. I apologized to my children and promised I would never
again try force them to do anything they did not want to do. And I never did. Changes
can be made instantly.
Then I asked if there was anything I could do to help them feel better. My youngest
daughter said she wanted to go out in the car. My oldest daughter said she wanted to
visit some friends we had not seen for a long time. We all agreed. We had an awesome
time and never looked back.
The Current Origin of the 1 Rule
This process started at the beginning of the year that I created Harmonizing With Kids. I
wanted people to get maximum results with minimal effort. I knew that 7 Steps to Harmony
worked, but I kept remembering that 3yr old kids did it with fewer steps. Out of this
process I came up with Harmonizing With Kids (the Bonus at the start of this training).
I Asked Myself
Even after I finished Harmonizing With Kids, I wondered if I’d gotten to the essence of
what I could share to help create harmonious situations for kids. One evening, I asked
myself a question: “What is the least that I need to share with people about what I’ve
learned about raising happy kids so other people can most quickly and easily raise their
own happy kids?” Or something simple like that. The result is the 1 Rule. “108 Parenting
Lessons in 1 Simple Rule”…
Next lesson I share how it was revealed to me.
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Lesson 7