LESSON 12: More Healing Information
Adults First…
Here’s the third healing point: Kids learn from adults. That seems to be built into the
human species. Kids are not born speaking a language and ready to fully participate in
family life. Human beings need to learn the language or languages spoken by those
around them, especially their parents. They also need to learn how things are done,
from those same adults.
Keep this in mind. Think about it. When it comes to respect, parents need to give
respect to their kids first. They need to show how it’s done. They are the models. Your
kids need to observe you when you treat them respectfully, see what you do and how
you do it, and experience how it feels. Then they can imitate you.
If you can’t think of another reason for being respectful to your kids, you can think of
respecting your kids this way: Their job of creating a wonderful adult human being is
certainly a job worthy of respect. Using the 1 Rule is one way we can be respectful.
Positive Respect
When you are committed to being never less than respectful, a foundation is created
that ensures that your child always feels loved. ‘Never less than respectful’ means that
you only treat your child in ways that feel good to them.
I discovered many years ago that treating kids respectfully brought about a very
enjoyable relationship. They became cooperative instead of resistant. They were not
only willing to do what I asked, they were often eager to do what I asked, because they
trusted me. They became caring and respectful to other kids and to other adults. They
were happier. I was happier.
I began to make every possible effort to ensure that I was never less than respectful to
kids. This became the foundation of our relationship. They treated me the way I treated
them.
Questions
1. What situations might be improved by being respectful to your kids? Journal on this.
2. Write respectful things to do for or to someone.
3. Write respectful things to think about someone.
4. Think of a disrespectful thought you have thought.
5. Write at least one respectful alternative thought for that disrespectful thought.
6. Repeat #4 and #5. This helps you develop the habit of thinking respectful thoughts. It
also strengthens your ability to shift your focus.
The 1 Rule: Each Happily Agrees…
The 1 Rule = Happy Agreement
Adults First…
Here’s the third healing point: Kids learn from adults. That seems to be built into the
human species. Kids are not born speaking a language and ready to fully participate in
family life. Human beings need to learn the language or languages spoken by those
around them, especially their parents. They also need to learn how things are done,
from those same adults.
Keep this in mind. Think about it. When it comes to respect, parents need to give
respect to their kids first. They need to show how it’s done. They are the models. Your
kids need to observe you when you treat them respectfully, see what you do and how
you do it, and experience how it feels. Then they can imitate you.
If you can’t think of another reason for being respectful to your kids, you can think of
respecting your kids this way: Their job of creating a wonderful adult human being is
certainly a job worthy of respect. Using the 1 Rule is one way we can be respectful.
Positive Respect
When you are committed to being never less than respectful, a foundation is created
that ensures that your child always feels loved. ‘Never less than respectful’ means that
you only treat your child in ways that feel good to them.
I discovered many years ago that treating kids respectfully brought about a very
enjoyable relationship. They became cooperative instead of resistant. They were not
only willing to do what I asked, they were often eager to do what I asked, because they
trusted me. They became caring and respectful to other kids and to other adults. They
were happier. I was happier.
I began to make every possible effort to ensure that I was never less than respectful to
kids. This became the foundation of our relationship. They treated me the way I treated
them.
Questions
1. What situations might be improved by being respectful to your kids? Journal on this.
2. Write respectful things to do for or to someone.
3. Write respectful things to think about someone.
4. Think of a disrespectful thought you have thought.
5. Write at least one respectful alternative thought for that disrespectful thought.
6. Repeat #4 and #5. This helps you develop the habit of thinking respectful thoughts. It
also strengthens your ability to shift your focus.
The 1 Rule: Each Happily Agrees…
The 1 Rule = Happy Agreement
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