LESSON 1
The 1 Rule = Happy Agreement
Use the 1 Rule when differences between you and your kids might lead to conflict.
Today just think about this.
When you are interacting with your kids, just think about this.
Think about everyone feeling good.
Think about happy agreement.
Think about easing stress for you and your kids.
Sharing the following three Agreements makes using the 1 Rule even easier:
1. “We are each important.” (Demonstrate this by pointing to each person involved and
saying, “You are important” and “You are important”…if you are involved, point to
yourself and say, “And I am important.”)
2. “We each deserve to feel good.”
3. “We are going to find a way for this to happen.”
When you actually give this a try, after telling each other what you want, start bringing
up possible solutions until you settle on that idea or combination of ideas that you all
agree on. You put the solution into practice for a limited period of time, like a week,
checking back with each other to make sure it is still working.
If you like, write about it in your journal.
Here is a secret about using the 1 Rule: in every moment there is an option of harmony
and it is there that you find a harmonious solution. Children are very close to a state of
harmony, that’s why they take to the 1 Rule so easily and quickly. In fact, they taught it
to me. To easily find a harmonious solution, get into a state of inner harmony and an
outer harmonious solution reveals itself. (I can help that happen.)
The 1 Rule = Happy Agreement
Use the 1 Rule when differences between you and your kids might lead to conflict.
Today just think about this.
When you are interacting with your kids, just think about this.
Think about everyone feeling good.
Think about happy agreement.
Think about easing stress for you and your kids.
Sharing the following three Agreements makes using the 1 Rule even easier:
1. “We are each important.” (Demonstrate this by pointing to each person involved and
saying, “You are important” and “You are important”…if you are involved, point to
yourself and say, “And I am important.”)
2. “We each deserve to feel good.”
3. “We are going to find a way for this to happen.”
When you actually give this a try, after telling each other what you want, start bringing
up possible solutions until you settle on that idea or combination of ideas that you all
agree on. You put the solution into practice for a limited period of time, like a week,
checking back with each other to make sure it is still working.
If you like, write about it in your journal.
Here is a secret about using the 1 Rule: in every moment there is an option of harmony
and it is there that you find a harmonious solution. Children are very close to a state of
harmony, that’s why they take to the 1 Rule so easily and quickly. In fact, they taught it
to me. To easily find a harmonious solution, get into a state of inner harmony and an
outer harmonious solution reveals itself. (I can help that happen.)
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| Lesson 1 |