| BEST HELP FOR TROUBLED TEENS
The Rest Of The Overlooked Facts...
Overlooked Fact #3:
We, as adults may consider teens as children, but they are not -- they are young adults. They need the
opportunity to learn and develop the skills and abilities they will need as independent adults. (If they had
been doing this all along, these troubles would not be there now.)
You realize and accept that it is important for your teenager to practice making their own decisions while
they are still at home, while they still have your help to back them up when they make the inevitable
mistakes. I know this may sound scary, but I will teach you techniques* to take most of the “scary” out of
(*See the Seven Simple Steps to End Conflict)
Learn and practice the Seven Simple Steps to End Conflict With Your Troubled Teen.
Overlooked Fact #4:
Everyone makes mistakes.
Learn to think of these “mistakes” as challenges or learning opportunities.
When you or your teen makes a “mistake,” ask: what lesson or lessons do we need to learn so we don’t
have to go through this again?
Overlooked Fact #5:
You must show respect first. I know that this seems backwards, to give respect to your troubled teens
when your “child” is not giving respect to you, but it is not.
Parents serve as models of appropriate behavior for their children.
“Remember, we are always examples to the children around us, and at some point they may try out our
Realize that children observe such behavior at close range. Whatever rights and privileges adults take,
children naturally feel entitled to take also, from a very young age.
We are their model of appropriate human behavior and in their minds they are definitely human and thus
deserve, expect, and require all human rights.”*
You are willing to be a model of respectful behavior toward your troubled teenagers.
You practice giving respect to your troubled teen first, and you tell them that you are going to do this.
*(from Parenting for the New Millennium
Creating Friendly Families Through the Power of Respect
by Karen Ryce)
Although these Facts, Attitudes, and Skills are listed 1-5, you can start with any one. Do the math. That
gives you 15 starting places.
Choose the one that appeals to you the most. Choose the one that seems the easiest, or the hardest, or
the most important. Take immediate action. Start practicing right away. Persevere. Do not give up. Let the
love you have for your child give you the determination to succeed.
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