Table Of Contents for The 1 Rule to Raising Happy Kids
A Beginning--8
The Side-Effects of the 1 Rule--9
What Is the 1 Rule?--10
I Asked Myself--10
Why and How the 1 Rule Works--11
Self-Determined Kids--11
Your Foundation Is Your Heart-to-Heart Bridge--11
Chapter One: Achieving Our Goal: Raising Happy, Confident, Respectful Kids!12
The Power of Harmony--12
Disclaimer--12
So Kids Always FEEL Loved--13
Root Cause of Conflict Between Adults and Kids--13
Kids’ Work--14
Developmental Blueprint-15
Adults First-15
Why Positive Respect?--15
Your Positive Respect Mindset--16
Benefits of Using the 1 Rule--17
Side-Effects of the 1 Rule--17
Chapter Two: The Benefits of the 1 Rule--19
Endless Reasons Your Kids Are Grateful To You--19
Reasons For You To Be Grateful To You--20
Why Your Community Is Grateful To You And Your Family--20
Skills Learned In A Household that Uses the 1 Rule--21
Chapter Three: The Practice Of Self-Respect--22
Helpful Techniques For Change--23
Practicing the Skills Of Self-Respect--23
Chapter Four: Getting Started with the 1 Rule--25
A Formula--25
Taking the First Step: Preparing the Soil--25
Second Step: Taking Action: Planting The Seeds Of Change--25
The 1 Rule--27
Third Step: Nourish And Celebrate The Changes--27
Fourth Step: Weeding And Letting Go--28
Chapter Five: Raising Harmonious Kids--29
Building A Harmonious Foundation--29
Respectful Self-Talk--30
Chapter Six: The Model Parent--31
Being A “Good” Model-31
New Directions--32
Chapter Seven: Trusting Children--33
Children Need To Be Trusted--33
Benefits Of Trust--34
Chapter Eight: Power Of Respect FAQs--35
Q. Shouldn’t my children be respectful to me first?--35
Don’t I deserve their respect?--35
Q. You mean I can’t tell them what to do?--35
Q. Why are you against punishment?--35
Q. What about logical and natural consequences?--35
Q. What if my child runs into the road?--35
Q. You mean I have to go to bed at the same time my child does?--36
Q. What if it’s cold outside? I can’t tell them to put on a jacket?--36
Q. What if they don’t do what I tell them to do? What then?--36
Q. What if I’m afraid to trust my child’s judgment?--36
Q. What is the importance of the 1 Rule and harmony in raising kids?--37
Q. Why focus on the 1 Rule and harmony instead of love?--37
Chapter Nine: Harmony With Baby--38
Preparation For Pregnant Mothers--38
Preparation For Pregnant Fathers--39
Harmony with The Newborn and the 1 Rule--39
The Older Baby: Preparing The Environment--40
With Safety In Mind--40
With Stimulation In Mind--40
With Independence In Mind--41
Providing Developmental Experiences--41
Keeping Up With The Toddler--43
Chapter Ten: Transitional Twos: The Age Of Willpower--46
The 1 Rule and Your Happy 2Yr Old--46
Harmoniously Living With A Two-Year-Old-47
Chapter Eleven: Transformed Teens--50
Respectful Insights, Understandings, Guidelines And Reminders--50
Mistakes--51
Communicate--51
Chapter Twelve: Work It--52
Respectful Guidance, Insights And Guidelines--52
Mistakes--53
Communicate--53
The Conclusion--54
Endnotes--55
Subject Bibliography--56
The 1 Rule: The Training--58
A Simple Way To Raise Happy Kids--59
Introduction and Pre-Work--59
Bonus Story: Kids and Swings: Origin of the 1 Rule--59
Pre-Work: Plan for Calm--61
Questions--62
Bonus: Meditating Mama Meditation Guide--62
Bonus Training: Harmonize Fast Formula--63
Level 1…….Clarity: The Lightening Round--63
Level 2……Agreement Round--64
Level 3……..Understanding Round--64
Lesson 1: Part 1: Babies through 2Yr Olds--65
Questions--66
Lesson 1: Part 2: Everyone Else The 1 Rule = Happy Agreement--67
Lesson 2: Agreement NOT Sacrifice--69
Questions--70
Bonus: Agree to Disagree--71
Lesson 3: Harmony Among Differences--72
Questions--73
Bonus: The Myth of the Spoiled Child--73
Lesson 4: Habits for Harmony--75
Lesson 5: Discover Your ‘Cue’--77
Lesson 6: Change Your Focus--79
Lesson 7: The Origin of the 1 Rule--82
The Current Origin of the 1 Rule--83
I asked Myself--83
Lesson 8: Why and How the 1 Rule Works--84
Self-Determined Kids--85
Questions--85
Lesson 9: Appreciate Your Improvements--86
Side-Effects of the 1 Rule--86
Questions--87
Lesson 10: Feel Loved--88
Your Foundation Is the Heart-to-Heart Bridge--88
Holding Space--88
Questions--89
Bonus: The Girl Who Finally Felt Her Mom Loved Her--89
Lesson 11: Healing Information--90
Kids’ Work--90
Developmental Blueprint--91
Questions--91
Lesson 12: More Healing Information--92
Adults First--92
Positive Respect--93
Questions--93
Contacts--94