| Karen Ryce Presents... |
| Power of Respect Mini-Course Lesson Eight: Action! Written Version |
| Lesson Eight Putting It Into Practice Now is the time put the solution or solutions into practice. That means get practical, what are the specific actions each of you are going to take. Since each person knows their part of the solution as negotiated and written down (Step Five), now action can proceed. Be sure to write down what each person is going to do, so no confusion develops later. “You said you were going to ________.” “No, I didn’t. I said I was going to________.” Grandmother/Grandson Session Continued... “Why don’t you call your friends and see if this is something they can do. If I need to speak to one of their parents just let me know.” “Thanks, Grandma.” “Hey, Mom, what about the baseball idea?” “We’ll see. Maybe it can still happen later.” “Ok. I’m going to call Robert and Jimmy.” “Wait, let me write this down. So, you’re going to call your friends, Robert and Jimmy to see if they can come over and you three can do your homework together, right?” “Yeah, that’s it.” “Ok. I’ve got it.” * * * “Grandma, Robert can come tomorrow, but Jimmy’s mom wants to talk to you.” “Is she on the phone?” “Yeah.” “Ok. Hi, Martha. Did you hear the plan? Oh, yes, I’ll be here...I have a home business now...It’s no problem. I think it will actually solve a problem I’ve had getting Tony to do his homework...Well, that’s very nice of you Martha...I’m sure sometimes they would like to go to your place...Ok, thanks for your approval...I hope you have a great evening...Bye. Ok, Tony. It’s done. You can start tomorrow. Let me write this down so we don’t forget.” “I’m going to go to Robert’s to talk about our plan.” “Wait, we’re not done yet. We have to schedule another meeting to make sure this is working for both of us.” “Oh, ok.” “Today is Wednesday. What about next weekend? Not the weekend coming up, but the one after?” “I have a soccer game.” “What about after your soccer game?” “Sure.” “Let me write that down. I’m also going to write that I’ll check back with you before the weekend to make sure this is still a good time for you and to tell you if it’s still a good time for me. I’ll write both of these, the meeting and checking before the meeting on our calendar in the kitchen.” “Can I go now?” “Yes. Have fun and see you later.” Family Session Continued... “Let’s set up a special savings account for next year’s extravagant vacation.” “Let’s get travel brochures and start dreaming and planning.” “What if Gabby doesn’t want to go again?” “We’ll deal with that then, Crystal. Ok?” “Ok.” “Let’s go to a travel agent and see everything that tourists like to do here.” “You want to do that, Gabby? Now you could have friends along if you want to go on our outings.” “Sure, Mom. That sounds like fun. I might not want to go on all of them though.” “No problem.” “I want Gabby to go with us.” “What if you invite a friend of your own, Crystal, when Gabby doesn’t want to go?” “Who can I ask?” “Well, let’s make a list of children you might like to ask.” “Ok.” “Oops, I almost forgot I have to write all of this down so we don’t forget anything. Who’s going to go to a travel agent to get brochures for our next vacation and of local things for this vacation?” “I’ll go, Mom, since it’s because of me that you’re not going away this vacation.” “I’ll write that down, Gabby. Terry, you had the idea about the savings account...” “Sure, I’ll take care of that tomorrow.” “Was there anything else?” “What about my list of friends?” “Right, Crystal. You and I can do that. I’ll write that down, too. We also have to have our first dreaming session about next year’s vacation and our first planning session for this vacation.” “I’ll have all the brochures here by the weekend. Maybe we could do that then.” “Does sometime this weekend work for everyone? Does anyone have plans yet?” “No plans, that’s a good start. Let’s make a Saturday brunch and have our first dreaming and planning session.” “Write it on the calendar before anyone makes any other plans.” “This was fun, Mom. I thought it was going to be awful.” “I’m happy the way everything is working out, too, Gabby. It’s great that you said what you needed.” “It’s great that we figured things out so that we all get to have a good time.” “It sure would have been awful if Gabby had to go or if Crystal had to go and Gabby got to stay.” “From now on it’s win-win-win all the way!” |
